Staying at home and returning to work both have their challenges as well as benefits. Before any assumptions are made, I think both roles are HARD WORK. Mommies… You rock, regardless!
In both instances you may experience distress due to the role transition.
If you excelled at work or in the home pre-baby, the addition of your new little one will be a great adjustment and will surely expand the responsibilities of your current role. Even if either is a welcomed choice, it is a change, and even positive change can create distress due to the associations we may attach to the change.
Someone that is excited about returning to work may have conflicted feelings about being able to function at the same level as before and may experience guilt about not staying home. For a new mom who chooses to stay home, there could be excitement about staying home full time with their little one, but guilt about not providing income for the home or using their skills in the workplace.
Two polar feelings can be swirling around at the same time; this is not uncommon.
Here are a few tips when returning to work:
Here are a few tips when staying home:
If you find the distress with returning to work or transitioning to staying at home as overwhelming, it may be time to speak to a counselor.
If unsure about speaking with a counselor, there are a few assessments that can take to guide you in understanding if there is a need. Click "Check Your Symptoms" in our menu to assess if your symptoms.